All of us meet different types of people in our lives. We meet them in the family circles, amongst friends, at work and the in the community around us or wherever we travel.

It is interesting that amongst all the people we meet in our lives, there are some, who make us happy ,every time we meet them. They may not be rich in wealth or the most accomplished, in their chosen professional field.

Let us examine what the qualities that they have, which make us happy in their company always :

1. Unconditional love : They express unconditional love. They are around always and are unconditional in their love and care for you. They do not need you and are not looking for anything in return from you.

2. Genuine and Authentic : They care for you and their caring ,touches you every time they are around due their genuineness and authenticity. Their authenticity is reflected in their eyes and their genuineness expressed through their emotions.

3. A great listener : They seem to have all the time in the world for you always. They are active listeners and are not in any hurry ,anytime. They make you feel as if listening to you ,is their privilege.

4. Available 24×7 : In this digital age, they are available to you all the time. You can call them, walk in to their homes or offices or chat with them anytime you need them. You do not need appointments to meet them and they give you an impression ,that you never intrude into their personal space.

5. Life coaches : While they may not accredited or trained professional coaches, their behaviour makes you believe ,that they are your life coaches. They listen always. They will never give you any unsolicited advice. They will ask you the right questions ,to make you feel better and make your feel nice ,without even saying a word , just by their presence.

6. Service before self: Their motto in life seems to be “serving others before self”. Everyone we know of ,seem to be in awe of them. They are friends ,for all people we know. They seem to have no enemies. It looks as if they live for others only.

7. Responsiveness : Their responsiveness is to be seen to be believed. They will respond to every phone call, reply to every email, chat whenever you want to chat with them. In case, they are busy for any reason, they will always call back, chat back or write back ,to close the loop.  They will never say they have no time for you.

8. Humility :  Their humility and selflessness bounces you off the ground.  Even if they hold high positions in organisations or the society at large, they will never make you feel less important than them.  As a friend, they will always treat you on par.  

Apart from the above, there may be many qualities of these people, which one needs to experience to understand them better.  Each of us may have different experiences to share.  But all of us will unequivocally confirm that they are super human beings.  They make you happier even on a day when they may not have tears to cry. 

Their presence ignites your energy.  Their absence leaves a vacuum in your life that day.  They make you believe that there are wonderful people around the world for us and they care for us.  No crisis looks big in their company.  No misery is endless with their support.

It may be time to learn from them and rediscover ourselves in life.

S Ramesh Shankar

4th Dec 2023