Basic learnings from Buddhism

This week I visited Bodhagaya, the place where Gautama Buddha got enlightenment and Sarnath , the place where he gave his first sermon to his disciples . Bodhagaya is near Gaya in Bihar and Sarnath is just on the outskirts of Varnasi in Uttar Pradesh. Two other places of significance in Buddha’s life are Lumbini, the birthplace of Buddha located in Nepal and Kushinagar, near Gorakhpur in Uttar Pradesh, where Buddha left for his heavenly abode.

All places associated with Buddha or Mahaveera are serene and peaceful and you can feel the echo ,of your inner voices, as you walk around these places. My trip to Bodhagaya and Sarnath, made me realise ,how Gautama Buddha simplified spirituality for the common man.

I inferred there simple things to practise every day ,from what I read, saw and experienced ,as I walked around. The first was to “Be grateful” for all that we have in life. The second learning was to “Be human” to fellow human beings and all other living beings around you and the third learning was to “Be helpful” to everyone – all living beings, in whatever ways you can.

I am not suggesting that these are inferred from the writings of Gautama Buddha but my own inspirational learning ,from my visits ,to these high energy places. As I went around Bodhagaya, I realised how grateful I need to be to my parents, elders, friends and well wishers for everything, I have in life.

I realised ,that losing one’s mother after 5 days of birth and being brought up by someone else ,can be painful. I lost my mother at 23 and felt I missed something in life but I did spend 23 years of my life with my mother, as compared to only 5 days which Gautama Buddha did.

The second insight, if I may say ,was that ,we need to “Be human” to fellow human being and animals, alike. As I entered the Mahabodhi temple at Bodhagaya, I could see a tree full of birds singing and welcoming us ,into the temple. The sound of the birds taught me ,of how Gautama Buddha may have been kind even to the birds and animals around him . they are welcoming his guests even today, with melodious music from nature.

We possibly are born human and then “inhumanness” creeps into us ,as greed overtakes our needs. We become competitive in life and are wanting to race ahead ,even at the cost of other human beings or living beings. This makes us inhuman ,to say the least and worser still , in our behaviour and actions.

The last learning from within was to “Be helpful” to others ,in all ways possible. We in India ,in our villages ,are generally helpful always. As we migrate to towns and cities, we become self-centred and forget that service to mankind and living beings ,is Godliness. I realised today ,that Buddha made us realise ,this basic tenet in life.

Each of us may have our own personal beliefs and religions, which we may follow. Each of us may pray to God in our own way and that is perfectly fine. But to remember ,that serving other beings is the ultimate prayer to God , is a big insight.

I think, over the centuries, we are lucky to have people like Gautama Buddha to be born on earth and remind us of the basic principles of life and living. Let us rekindle our conscience today and try our best ,to live these basic principles in our own lives.

Let the spirt of Buddha transcend any religion, we follow in life. After all, all religions lead us to the same goal in life.

S Ramesh Shankar

25th March 2025

Privileges unlimited

We are all having unlimited privileges in life. Today, I visited a home for the destitutes in Varnasi. There are about 65 inmates in this institution – both men and women. Most of them are differently abled – mentally, physically, socially or emotionally. Some of them have been left behind by their own children ,in these homes, although they are well to do.

I realised once again ,how privileged we are and have been, in our lives. We have been brought up in respectable families and had all the basic comforts of life, always. We have siblings .our parents gave us the best education and values.

When you meet each one of them ,in such institutions, you realise that everyone’s story ,can make you cry. Some have left home and reached here ,since there was no alternative. Some of them were left by their own families to fend for themselves and so landed here. Some others were deliberately abandoned here ,by their own children.

Some are physically challenged and others mentally challenged. Some are socially ostracised ,while others have been emotionally drained ,due to social distancing by their families and friends. We do not realise how lucky we are ,unless we see the suffering of such people. Our visit there was only for a few hours but it shook us apart. It makes you thankful to God and nature, for giving us all that we have in life.

The trials and tribulations of life, are varied for all of us. Some of us struggle in our early stages but make a better living, through education and hard work ,later in our lives. But some people like those I met in the ashram ,are facing tough times ,every day of their lives – may be from birth till their death.

We complain ,if we do not get good food at home ,on a day. We complain if we are not able to buy clothes, for a festival. We are upset, if we are not able to go for a vacation . If we look at these people, we may realise ,how lucky and blessed we are. We get good healthy food every day. We sleep comfortably and live comfortably.

We have a family to support us and friends to meet and greet. Imagine living all alone and not sure of the food ,next morning. You do not have any siblings or a family to support you. You have no friends to share your joy and sorrow. You live life ,with no hopes and no aspirations. This may shake us apart ,even if we try it for a day.

It is these experiences ,which makes us human and enable us to be grounded ,to Mother Earth. It makes us realise ,that we have more than what we need. We need to be thankful to God and grateful to our parents , relatives and friends, who have made our life ,so comfortable for us ,from birth itself.

Let us periodically remind ourselves ,as to how privileged we are. Our privileges are indeed unlimited.

S Ramesh Shankar

18th March 2025

Time

Time is “timeless” indeed. What has gone by we could not control, what is stored in the future for us ,is unknown. We can neither control our time ,nor the time of others.

We can plan for our time ,but what may happen ,may not be predictable. Some times ,things go as we have planned and at other times, things go astray. We can neither blame time nor ourselves for it. We may leave home ,two hours in advance ,to catch a train and still may miss it, although the station is just a few kilometers away.

At other times, we may be sure that we may miss the flight ,since we arrived late at the airport and there were heavy queues but, the departure of our flight could get rescheduled ,for reasons we may never know.

Life is no different. We need to accept life and its events ,as it happens to us. This does not mean, we do not plan for our life and work hard ,to achieve our goals. But, what we need to realise is that, some things may be in our control but many others ,may be beyond our zone of influence.

Our ability to accept things as they evolve ,and adapt ourselves to weave our life ,around the uncertainties of life ,makes it worthwhile to live and enjoy life. If we keep cribbing about why something happened or did not happen, we may miss the bus ,as the bus in our life ,does not stop at our place ,forever. It keeps moving and we need to catch it, when it arrives ,or it may not arrive again ,in our lifetime.

We may keep wondering about why something happened in the past and forget to live in the present moment. We may sometimes worry about the future, which we can never be sure of and waste our time, instead of enjoying the present.

Life has to enjoyed everyday ,as if ,today is our last day on earth. Every moment is precious and does not come back. Have we ever seen the clock running backwards ? No moment in life ,comes back to us and hence ,we need to make the best use ,of every second in our life ,today.

It is almost like us sitting in a stationary train ,in the station. When the adjacent train moves, we feel as if we are moving ,in the opposite direction. The reality is that ,we are still ,but the relative moment, makes us feel that way. In life also ,if we remain static, life does not move ,but when we see others progressing, we feel left behind. This is more because, they are working hard, while we may be relaxing and being static at the same place ,without putting any efforts.

Another interesting sight ,is the trees at a distance ,when you are viewing them ,from a moving train. We all know ,that the trees at the distance are rooted in their places and we are moving ,but it looks as if the trees at a distance are moving ,along with us. It is also like the moon seems to be travelling with you, when you are driving on a full moon night. The reality is otherwise.

We need to understand ,the value of time and its reality. We need to realise that ,time does not discriminate, for anyone in life. All of us have the same time in a day, month or a year. Some of us become more successful than others, not because others had limited time, but because we made the best use of time available to us.

Time to realise that time is indeed timeless, non-discriminatory and relative ,for all of us.

S Ramesh Shankar

25th Feb 2025