Past, present & future -2.0

“Past is experience, Present is experiment & Future is expectations. Use your experience in your experiments to achieve your expectations. “ – Anonymous

An interesting quote opening my mind about life. I loved the relationship between past, present and the future. It says, past is experience. We gain experience ,every day of our lives. Some moments are joyful and others, may not be.

But each day of our lives, is an experience in reality. It definitely teaches us, to deal with the uncertainties of life. Some days ,we may be successful and on other days ,we may not be. But each day, we learn something new, if we want to learn.

We cannot say ,that over the years ,we have not learnt anything in life. We learn every day of our lives, starting from our childhood. Some we learn by succeeding in our efforts and others by failing. Some joyous moments in life ,teach us valuable lessons. But, possibly the best lessons are learnt ,when we fail , because we sit back and reflect on those experiences.

I have seen project managers, dissect a project and review them ,after the project is over and document ,the lessons learnt. This not only helps them improve in future but also enables other project managers dealing with similar challenges ,to overcome the same ,more effectively.

Life is no different. We learn from our experiences, every day. We need to reflect on our good and bad experiences and document them ,at least in our brain memory ,so that we learn from them and do not commit the same mistake, again.

Our present ,is like a mine field ,for us. We can experiment every day of our lives and try out new things. One of the questions asked by my young Mentees is -“how to make our job interesting every day ? “. I would always say that ,if we are willing to innovate and experiment, in our work every day, it becomes interesting.

Daily life, gives us ample opportunities to experiment ,in every aspect of life. It could be as simple as, taking a new route to go for our morning walks instead of ,the daily ritual of walking on the same path. It could be meticulous planning for a day and no planning for another.

We could decide to meet many people on someday and be alone ,all day ,on some other days. Today ,with hybrid working, it could also mean ,working from home, office or a forest, on some days. For eg. I am at my creative best to write, when I am travelling in a plane or train and listening to music.

Each one of us ,can find ways and means, to experiment every day. The only limitation may be ,in our ability to think. If we are willing, to let the mind wander, we may find life ,as a new experiment ,every day. This in itself ,can make life interesting for us.

The only caution is that, we have to regulate our mind some times ,to achieve our day to day goals, on time. We cannot give the excuse of experimentation, to delay our tasks at home or shirk our responsibilities at work.

The future ,is our expectations. It is like the clouds in the sky. When they are dark, we start believing that all of them will end up in heavy rains. Some do and others dont. Similarly ,our expectations may be like dreams. We may dream for ,unlimited things in life. But to convert those dreams into reality, we need to use our experience and be willing to experiment.

As in the quote above, we need to learn from our experience, try out our experiments every day ,to fulfil our expectations ,with discipline as the underlying principle. If we fail to use our experience gainfully and are not willing to experiment, then expectations will remain a fantasy and an unfulfilled dream in life.

Let experience teach us to experiment to fulfil our expectations in life.

S Ramesh Shankar

17th July 2025

Rights & Duties

We have ,both rights and duties in our life. Even our constitution guarantees us fundamental rights. But it also defines ,fundamental duties applicable to all citizens, in India. We generally are fully aware of our rights but ignore our duties.

Let us start from our homes. As children, we are fully aware of our rights and always fight for it. But, when it comes to our duties ,we either feign ignorance or fail in them. This is equally true, for parents and siblings in the family too.

Then, if we move to the workplace, the situation is not very different. Most employees ,are fully aware of their rights but plead ignorance, when it comes to their duties. I have come across, very few responsible union leaders at the workplace, who remind their members of their duties ,before they demand their rights.

As citizens in a democracy, we are fully aware of our rights. We demand them and also ensure, that we benefit from it. Sometimes, when a right is denied, we approach the courts ,to enforce a denied right by the state. However, when it comes to our duties, we are either ignorant or selectively forget them ,when we are expected to behave in a particular way.

I am not sure, if it is a psychological make up of a human being, in a democratic set up or it is a fundamental human flaw, as designed by the almighty. Why are we not responsible enough , to first do our duties before we demand our rights ,at every stage of our lives.

I wonder why ,unions do not voluntarily advise their members ,not to strike work in public services like hospitals or public transport, during a nation wide strike. They only relent ,when the government declares them as an essential service and enforces, by the dictates of law.

As citizens in the world’s largest democracy, why do the so called literate citizens ,especially in urban India ,not go out and exercise their franchise ,during a general election. On the other hand, we shout at the top of our voice , demanding for civic amenities, from elected governments, when they do not deliver.

Today, we read a lot of children ,demanding their right to succession of parental property ,even before their death. But, they are reluctant to look after their ageing parents ,as it interferes in their life comforts. They ,even admit them in old age homes ,to shirk this basic duty, as a child.

As we can see, as members of a family, employees of an organisation or citizens of a state, we are more than aware of our rights and demand their enforcement. On the other hand, we are reluctant to perform our duties ,with the same vigour.

Let us do our duties first ,before we demand our rights ,from today.

S Ramesh Shankar

5th July 2025

What wrong did I do ?

All of us face ups and downs in our everyday life. However, when we have not done anything wrong from our side and something unfortunate happens, you wonder -“What wrong did I do ?

It could be ,that you had a great run all through the year and you were expecting a promotion and a leadership role ,but at the end of the year, you are denied the same. You wonder – What wrong did I do ?

I surpassed all my targets, I got positive feedback from my manager and he has assured me that I was grooming well, for the next level role. But, when promotions were announced, my name was missing.

You keep wondering and questioning, your own work. However, the reality is that, you have not got recognised or promoted. You may sometimes wonder ,if it is worth working so hard and exceeding all your targets and displaying your true potential.

The truth is that you feel very hurt. It may take a few weeks or even months to recover from this shock. I have experienced this in my career and hence I understand the impact it has ,on the individual.

However, when you recover and sit back and reflect, you realise that you did your best and deserved the promotion. However, if the leadership team including your manager ,did not see that in the same light – it could mean two things. Either, there was not an appropriate opportunity to accommodate you or you did not project yourself enough to be recognised or somebody more deserving than you may have been promoted.

Again, it becomes challenging ,to accept this reality. But, if you are able to get over this initial disappointment, you realise that it is your duty to do your best and present yourself ,to the best of your ability ,to your seniors. If you do not get recognised, it is more their failure , than yours.

It is like ,a cricketer has the highest average amongst all batters in a team ,but she is not selected in the playing level, for the next match. This cricketer will feel highly disappointed ,for not being selected. But, she has to realise ,that her statistics speak ,for her performance. It is more the failure of the selectors ,than the skills of the cricketer.

Life is no different. We may feel disappointed when we put in hard work and do not get the recognition we deserve. But, we need to realise that ,efforts is always in our hand ,but recognition is beyond our control. The best will never rest. They continue to excel and I can assure you ,that they can never be ignored for long.

We need to work hard and put our best foot forward ,in life or work, and leave the rest ,to the people responsible to recognise us. We know for ourselves ,that we have done our best. Let us leave the rest, to the judges of our destiny. Yes, sometimes, they may err in judgement. But, they are also human and so are we. We could feel bad and they may also realise their mistakes ,before it is too late.

Let us continue to strive for the best, without worrying – “What wrong did I do in life ?

S Ramesh Shankar

2nd Jan 2025