“Life is like a camera – focus on what matters, capture the good and delete the rest. “

I loved this quote, I received today morning ,from someone. I try to live life, this way ,every day. It helps ,if we focus our life ,on what matters to us. This does not mean that we are self centred. What it means is that we do not lose our focus in life or our goals. We are not distracted by obscure things ,happening around us. We also do not interfere, in other peoples’ lives.

Let us start with the morning newspaper. I love reading the printed newspaper every day ,although I may have read the news ,on my phone or tablet during the previous 24 hours. I focus on what is happening in my country and the world.

I love to read all the positive news around us and get inspired by them. I do not waste my energy in reading about crimes or about negative things. I look at ,how I can contribute as an individual, family or community ,to make a better world around me.

I do not like to gossip or share unwanted material, on whatsapp or other social media etc. I consider it a waste of time. I share any good news I get or anything new or innovative ,I read about, in any media.

I prefer to spend my time reading or writing, about the positive things happening around me. Sometimes, I do write about my failures too and what I learnt from them. I am a born optimist and try to keep my mind positive always.

I do end up reading a lot of negative things in newspapers or media. I generally do not read them in detail and immediately delete them from my memory ,as it will take away the positivity in me.

It may be helpful, to mix with family and friends, who are positive also and refrain from the company of cribbers and negative people. As they say “sangati” or the positive company makes you positive too.

I prefer to watch sports and also music reality shows. I do watch cinema of genres, which I like, like comedy, romance or about life in general. I dislike watching crimes and news on tv, where a set of participants keep arguing about things ,they know little of.

I love to go on my walks, practise yoga and play badminton, which keeps me physically and emotionally fit. Long drives in my car ,to be with nature, keeps me energised too.

Life is an adventure and we need to keep the memories, which we would cherish and which gives us happiness. Sometimes, we cannot ,avoid negativities in our life. But, we need to learn ,to get over them as soon as we can.

We have to decide ,what matters to us. We need to create enough memory, to keep the good and have the courage, to deal with the negativity around us.

If we learn to focus on what matters to us, capture the good and delete the rest, then life is enjoyable every day.

S Ramesh Shankar

17th July 2025

“Past is experience, Present is experiment & Future is expectations. Use your experience in your experiments to achieve your expectations. “ – Anonymous

An interesting quote opening my mind about life. I loved the relationship between past, present and the future. It says, past is experience. We gain experience ,every day of our lives. Some moments are joyful and others, may not be.

But each day of our lives, is an experience in reality. It definitely teaches us, to deal with the uncertainties of life. Some days ,we may be successful and on other days ,we may not be. But each day, we learn something new, if we want to learn.

We cannot say ,that over the years ,we have not learnt anything in life. We learn every day of our lives, starting from our childhood. Some we learn by succeeding in our efforts and others by failing. Some joyous moments in life ,teach us valuable lessons. But, possibly the best lessons are learnt ,when we fail , because we sit back and reflect on those experiences.

I have seen project managers, dissect a project and review them ,after the project is over and document ,the lessons learnt. This not only helps them improve in future but also enables other project managers dealing with similar challenges ,to overcome the same ,more effectively.

Life is no different. We learn from our experiences, every day. We need to reflect on our good and bad experiences and document them ,at least in our brain memory ,so that we learn from them and do not commit the same mistake, again.

Our present ,is like a mine field ,for us. We can experiment every day of our lives and try out new things. One of the questions asked by my young Mentees is -“how to make our job interesting every day ? “. I would always say that ,if we are willing to innovate and experiment, in our work every day, it becomes interesting.

Daily life, gives us ample opportunities to experiment ,in every aspect of life. It could be as simple as, taking a new route to go for our morning walks instead of ,the daily ritual of walking on the same path. It could be meticulous planning for a day and no planning for another.

We could decide to meet many people on someday and be alone ,all day ,on some other days. Today ,with hybrid working, it could also mean ,working from home, office or a forest, on some days. For eg. I am at my creative best to write, when I am travelling in a plane or train and listening to music.

Each one of us ,can find ways and means, to experiment every day. The only limitation may be ,in our ability to think. If we are willing, to let the mind wander, we may find life ,as a new experiment ,every day. This in itself ,can make life interesting for us.

The only caution is that, we have to regulate our mind some times ,to achieve our day to day goals, on time. We cannot give the excuse of experimentation, to delay our tasks at home or shirk our responsibilities at work.

The future ,is our expectations. It is like the clouds in the sky. When they are dark, we start believing that all of them will end up in heavy rains. Some do and others dont. Similarly ,our expectations may be like dreams. We may dream for ,unlimited things in life. But to convert those dreams into reality, we need to use our experience and be willing to experiment.

As in the quote above, we need to learn from our experience, try out our experiments every day ,to fulfil our expectations ,with discipline as the underlying principle. If we fail to use our experience gainfully and are not willing to experiment, then expectations will remain a fantasy and an unfulfilled dream in life.

Let experience teach us to experiment to fulfil our expectations in life.

S Ramesh Shankar

17th July 2025

We have ,both rights and duties in our life. Even our constitution guarantees us fundamental rights. But it also defines ,fundamental duties applicable to all citizens, in India. We generally are fully aware of our rights but ignore our duties.

Let us start from our homes. As children, we are fully aware of our rights and always fight for it. But, when it comes to our duties ,we either feign ignorance or fail in them. This is equally true, for parents and siblings in the family too.

Then, if we move to the workplace, the situation is not very different. Most employees ,are fully aware of their rights but plead ignorance, when it comes to their duties. I have come across, very few responsible union leaders at the workplace, who remind their members of their duties ,before they demand their rights.

As citizens in a democracy, we are fully aware of our rights. We demand them and also ensure, that we benefit from it. Sometimes, when a right is denied, we approach the courts ,to enforce a denied right by the state. However, when it comes to our duties, we are either ignorant or selectively forget them ,when we are expected to behave in a particular way.

I am not sure, if it is a psychological make up of a human being, in a democratic set up or it is a fundamental human flaw, as designed by the almighty. Why are we not responsible enough , to first do our duties before we demand our rights ,at every stage of our lives.

I wonder why ,unions do not voluntarily advise their members ,not to strike work in public services like hospitals or public transport, during a nation wide strike. They only relent ,when the government declares them as an essential service and enforces, by the dictates of law.

As citizens in the world’s largest democracy, why do the so called literate citizens ,especially in urban India ,not go out and exercise their franchise ,during a general election. On the other hand, we shout at the top of our voice , demanding for civic amenities, from elected governments, when they do not deliver.

Today, we read a lot of children ,demanding their right to succession of parental property ,even before their death. But, they are reluctant to look after their ageing parents ,as it interferes in their life comforts. They ,even admit them in old age homes ,to shirk this basic duty, as a child.

As we can see, as members of a family, employees of an organisation or citizens of a state, we are more than aware of our rights and demand their enforcement. On the other hand, we are reluctant to perform our duties ,with the same vigour.

Let us do our duties first ,before we demand our rights ,from today.

S Ramesh Shankar

5th July 2025