We may consider the dustbin as the least attractive place in the house or office as we end up throwing all that we do not want in life. However, we do not realize how valuable the dust bin is as it relentlessly accepts all our garbage we throw into it. I was wondering how valuable the dustbin is in our life. In life, you always want people around you, who are willing to listen to all your outpouring. We may call them the emotional dustbin.
I had a colleague of mine in one of the earlier organizations I worked who ( in the photo above) symbolised the emotional dustbin. He was easily accessible and was always willing to listen to the feelings of everyone around him. I have seen him from morning to night listening to people and enabling them to outpour their emotions. This is not an easy task. One may get emotionally discharged if we keep listening to others sorrow all the time.
However, in life, we all need an emotional dustbin. As we grow up, it is generally our parents and in most cases our mother or an elder sibling, who plays the role of the emotional dustbin. We can pour our emotions on them endlessly. They have the patience and perseverance to listen to us and tolerate our non sense too. It is this ability of a person, which makes him or her adorable.
This is equally true for us as parents at home. As our kids grow up, our patience tends to diminish. While all of us wait for our child to speak the first word in the world, we want to shut up the child as he grows up. We cannot tolerate the continuous muttering of our child. Then adosclent children tend to test our patience. Their rebellious nature challenges our emotions and we refuse to give in. It is at this stage, our listening skills are put to test.
In the organisational context, most people managers are not good at listening. We need to realize that our team members are people with emotions. Our ability to enable our colleagues to share their joy and sorrow with equal measure will help us grow as a leader. We need to learn to be like the emotional dustbin. In most situations, we may silence our colleagues by our inability to be good listeners.
As adults, we always get along better with people who are active listeners. We like their company as we can share whatever we feel like. We pick friends and colleagues at work or life, who are willing to invest their time in us. We are impatient with people who are restless. While we want to liberally share our feelings, we are not equally excited when others want to do the same with us.
In the cycle of life, we all are emotional people. Some of us hide our emotions and find it difficult to express them till we lose control. While others look for people around them all the time so that they can freely express themselves. It is true that all of us want to share with others many a time. It is easier to share with others and make them listen to your feelings and emotions. However, it is difficult the other way around.
May be it is time to realize that the dustbin is invaluable and human being as an emotional dustbin in life is the most valuable in our lives.
Is it time to emote ?
S Ramesh Shankar