There is something good in everybody around us. We spend most of our time finding faults with others. It is easier to find fault than to find the goodness in others. Let us try to change the way we look at others. If we spend a little time everyday to observe and admire one good quality in someone in our life, our life may be different. We may not only learn that good quality and we can try to imbibe it but also make the other person happier that day.
While many of us are comfortable in sharing what we don’t like in others easily, we find it difficult to praise people in front of them. Next , we are not very keen to look at the positives of others. This could be a cultural issue. But, after all each of us have a responsibility to change the culture of the organisation. After all, we have known many brilliant individuals, who have changed the way society thinks on a particular subject. We can become one of them if we start thinking this way.
We could put a black nail on a white wall and ask people around us what do they see on the wall. Most people will point out the black nail and not see the beautiful white wall all around the nail. Similarly, in real life, we all see the negatives of others easily and do not notice the positives of the same people. May be it is time to rewind the clock and see others from a positive prism.
I have tried a small experiment in some of my training programmes. This is not something I invented but I learnt from late Kathy Dannemiller, one of the inventors of large scale interactive processes way back in 1995. You could end a training programme by asking each participant to observe, note down one positive quality about his/her neighbour in the class during the course of that training . Then, they could look at the eyes of his/her neighbour and share the positive quality they have observed in them. You can see the joy in their eyes.
The power of positivity in life is endless. You have to experience the appreciation to believe this. If each of us try to recall when was the last time, someone appreciated something positive in us, it may be a long time since it happened. On the other hand, if you want to recall when someone criticised you, you may recall immediately. It is in our psyche to look at the gaps and holes in others always.
Let us resolve to ourself that we will meet every family member every day and share one positive quality we like in them that day. Similarly, we can do with our office colleagues. I can assure you that life will be very different. It will be full of energy and possibilities. We will always have options for everything in life and there will be hordes of people around us, who will be keen to contribute to our success.
Like in the photo above, we met the senior union representatives of our global parent in Germany during theirrecent visit to India and had so much to learn from them within a week’s interaction with them.
Can we promise to admire the positivity in others from today ?
S Ramesh Shankar