Never judge anyone

Every day we tend to judge people around us in every possible way. It may be positive or negative based on our own perceptions or hearsay. We rarely judge people based on facts. This is the reality of life.

An incident in my life today triggered this thought in me and hence this blog. I had given some clothes to stich to a nearby tailor. As usual, this tailor kept giving me new dates every time I called her. I was fed up and hence decided to reach the tailor’s shop one day, unannounced.

I sat down in front of her and got a few things stitched. As they were curtains, she readily did it and told me that the rest will take some more time. I was curious to know why this inordinate delay. She then narrated to me her story. She lives with her hubby and two college going kids.

Her husband who was working in a factory nearby got a paralytic stroke and she went literally from pillar to post for his treatment. Many hospitals near her home including a national centre of excellence refused to treat her husband and she had to drive him all the way to Mysore from Bangalore ( which is 120 kms away from her home) where some hospital agreed to treat him.

This illness made her hubby jobless and she was the only earning member in the family with a shop, which had to be closed ,as she had to take care of her husband and her kids. Luckily her husband is recovering now and her college going kids are supportive .so, she is limping back to normalcy in a slow and steady way.

I had almost decided that I will never give any clothes to her for stiching, based on my perception of her, before knowing the facts. After listening to her story, I decided that she will be my first choice of a tailor for all my future needs.

In life, we tend to judge people based on perceptions or hearsay. We listen to some stories or have some bad experiences and we decide this should be right or wrong. It may be worthwhile to dig deep into the facts of every experience ,before we make any judgement on people.

This happens in family, society and even in organisations. In the family, parents judge children and vice versa. Similarly in organisations, managers judge employees and vice versa based on perceptions and hearsay rather than facts. While it may be the reality to judge people on perceptions, it may be worthwhile to check back and ask for real life instances to substantiate a perception before we make a judgement.

I remember some manager stating that his employee is argumentative just because he is not able to manage him. When I used to ask for real life examples, the manger did not have many to share. When I checked with his peers ,I found that that the employee was smart and the manger found it difficult to bull doze him to do things which the employee felt was not in the best interest of the organisation.

Life is no different. We tend to judge people on the go. It is time to reflect, sit back and gather facts before we judge. If we are able to put ourselves in the situation of the person whom we are about to judge ,we may be more objective in our judgement.

May be time to look at the mirror before we make the next judgement about others.

S Ramesh Shankar

20th April’s 2022

Listening to your stakeholders

One thing which fascinated me always is – “ why don’t we listen actively to our stakeholders ?”. Be it your customer, supplier or employee – it does not matter. I have seen multiple instances where instead of listening to them, we assume what they have in mind and make our own judgements.

This attitude leads to misunderstanding stakeholder issues and thereby leads to wrong diagnosis of the problem and hence inappropriate counter measures at our end. Let me illustrate this point with three real life instances, which I have witnessed myself and understood how deaf we are to our stakeholders.

In the first instance I was working in an automobile company. We were travelling in a bus for an offsite with the sales and marketing team. I noticed that the bus was not our brand and was wondering why customers don’t prefer our brand in that region of our country.

When enquired, our sales guys promptly told me that “Price” was the issue. On the other hand, when I asked the same question to the driver of the bus who was also was its owner, he said that “price”was not an issue but the issue was “non-availability of timely service and spares” and they could not afford their bus to be off-road for long as it could impact their business income.

The second instance is that of a patient and a doctor. The patient had mistakenly taken a tablet with its aluminium foil without realising it. When she complained to the doctors that her tablet had got stuck in her throat, they did not listen to her actively and investigate appropriately.

On the other hand, they examined her throat and told her everything was fine. Even in the end when they did an endoscopy the doctors said it was possibly a denture and not a tablet. Ultimately, a tablet with its aluminium foil was removed from her upper oesophagus. If the doctors had actively listened to the patient, the agony of the patient could have been reduced from one month to a few days.

The third incident is that of an employee. We were in process of selling a business to a buyer. We had a fantastic track record of employee well being and never had a strike in our history in that business. However, on the day when we were to hand over the business to the buyer, the employees went on strike.

I was incharge of that business and never realised that I did not listen to our employees. I had fought hard with the buyer to take over all the employees as part of the sale. The buyer had reluctantly agreed. On the other hand, while our employees were very happy with us, they were are not keen to join the new employer. They wanted to make their own decision to join or not. A clear situation where we did not listen to our employees.

In the all the three cases, if we had listened to our key stakeholder, we may have been better placed and the decisions we may have taken could have been a win win in each situation.

Organisations need to train their employees to listen to all their key stakeholders and not put words in their mouth or assume what they have in mind. If we listen attentively and act objectively, all our decisions will be the best we could make in any situation.

Let us learn to listen to all our stakeholders.

S Ramesh Shankar

15th April 2022

 

Crafting your career

One of the questions I have been asked multiple times in my career from campus to the corporate world is – “How do I plan my career?” In the campus, when someone asked me about “What his career plan was in our organisation ?” – I would say, join us and we can evolve it together.

After joining the organisation, at every step of the corporate ladder, employees have this ubiquitous question – “How do I plan my career ?. The answer has been mostly similar – You can evolve it with your manager.

So, the first question to ask is – “ Who is responsible for my career planning ? “ We may sometimes think it is our manager, HR or someone else. The reality is that each one of us are responsible for our own careers. If we succeed, we can take the credit but if we fail we have nobody to blame.

Just as in life, career planning is no different. In life, we have to steer our own destiny. Similarly in organisations, we are singularly responsible for crafting our own career. Now, the question may arise as to when do I start and what is the role other stakeholders may play in this entire journey.

I had read a beautiful article in Harvard Business Review long time back entitled “ Career Sculpting”. In this article, the author explains as to how we can sculpt our career over a period of time. There is no right time to make a change nor a wrong time to end a wrong step.

Each of us begin with our dreams. I remember growing up in a Army campus since my father was a government servant. I dreamt of becoming an Army officer. Then we moved to an Air Force campus during my senior school and my dreams moved to become a pilot. So, it is natural for us to have shifting dreams and aspirations and this is ok.

We never know when we realise what is the right vocation for us. I realised that HR was my calling only after I had finished my graduation in Chemistry. It can happen to anyone anytime. One need not worry that it has not yet happened to you.

If you are lucky, you realise what gives you joy, early in your career. If what you enjoy becomes your career then it is like a dream come true. But many of us are driven to take up jobs because of economic necessity or lack of opportunities. We may realise that we are at the wrong place after having spent many years in that profession.

There is no right time or wrong time to feel happy in life. Similarly, there is no right or wrong time to make a career shift. I know of people who spent long years as a HR professional until they realised that teaching was their calling and went back to school to fulfil their dreams.

Similarly, I know of people who went on a holiday and realised that photography was their passion along with travel and decided to take a career break and pursue professional photography as an option. In both cases, one realises that nobody is sure when they have arrived in life and so it is with our careers.

Whatever happens to us and whenever it happens is the best thing to happen.. However, it is important to keep asking ourselves – “ What gives us joy in life ?”. If we keep selling something and regret it every day, we can have the choice of doing it till we retire. But, if we realise at some stage that we do not enjoy selling, then it is time to change.

Today with virtual learning and multiple platforms to learn, there is no limit in terms of time and space to anyone’s career. If at all there is a limitation, it is in our minds and we need to look at the mirror and realise that only “me” is responsible for the same.

We need to dream and then put our actions together to make that dream a reality. Just dreaming is not good enough. It is like a sportsperson does not give up after one loss but learns from it and excels in the next game. So is career and life for us.

It is time to realise that we can begin with dreams and try to experiment as to what we like to do. We may succeed or we may fail. It is never too late to change. The only person responsible for my career is “myself”. All others including my manager, mentors, colleagues , parents and siblings can be partners to this process but the buck stops with me.

Let us reset and begin our career journey today.

S Ramesh Shankar

20th March 2022