We always wait for an occasion to celebrate life. Why do we need to do so. Why not learn to celebrate life every day without any reason ? Is it difficult ? I do not know. May be we are conditioned to do so. As we grow up as a child, we naturally celebrate life every day without any reason. We play, laugh, cry without any provocation. We do what we feel like doing and never regret our actions. But as we grow up as an adult, we cease to do so.
It may be worthwhile to examine as to why this phenomenon happens. One of my hypothesis is that the child in us gradually disappears. We do not live life naturally. We put up a facade in front of others. We have an inner and an outer self. The inner self is the child in us. It is natural and wants to celebrate life as it comes. The outer self is regulatory. It tries to control us and our behaviour. We behave as others want us to behave rather what we feel.
The second hypothesis is that our family, society and work environment also determines our behaviour. Fear is instilled in us and we are generally pulled up for laughing aloud or celebrating without reason. It is considered frivolous to enjoy life. People around you tell you that you are not taking life seriously. You seem to think that you have arrived in life. All this makes us circumspect and look at life very seriously. We may end up crying when need to laugh it out and laugh at moments of distress.
The third factor could be the perceived image we want to create in society. We behave the way we want others to perceive us. We are conditioned by circumstances and people around us. We do not want to be our natural self lest we are misunderstood by others around us. We behave in society’s acceptable ways. It is like I take a particular subject in school or college not because I love the subject but because society will think I am crazy if I take something I like but is not considered normal.
It is time to wake up. It is time to celebrate life as it comes every day. Why not get up in the morning and think that today is the best day of your life ? Why not be grateful to God for bestowing you with all the good things in life. Why not enjoy today better than yesterday and also the unimaginable tomorrow ? Why postpone a celebration for an occasion. Why not tell people around you how much you love them ? Why not tell your child how talented she is ? Why wait for the exam results to celebrate your child’s talent ?
I love driving. Sometimes, I have gone for a drive with my family without any destination in mind. I have driven to wherever my heart wanted me to take. Similarly, why not celebrate life without any reasons. Why wait for a tomorrow to celebrate life ? After all the tomorrow may never arrive. Like they say, yesterday is “history”, tomorrow is “mystery” and today is “present”. Lets celebrate today.
Let us the learn to celebrate life ( as in the photo above) from the gardner, who creates a thing of beauty from Bougainville flowers.
It may not be worthwhile to look at the past and lose our sleep. It may be not realistic to look at the future and hope something is likely to happen. It would be better to enjoy today. It may also not be worthwhile to look for reasons to celebrate. Let us celebrate life without reasons. Let us create reasons to celebrate life rather than wait for occasions to occur in life.
The day to start is today and the time to start is now.
S Ramesh Shankar
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Well said Ramesh…. somewhere we set our own boundary conditions and the norms there in to live our life. On the other side of the spectrum, there are those who are musicians, painters..etc actually are those whom I can look up to and learn how they lead their life celebrating each moment of the day and do what they like n they are good at it. Really time to reflect 🙏👌
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One of the joys of living past the “working every day” point in life is that we get to experience again in our 80+ years this phenomena: “we naturally celebrate life every day without any reason. We play, laugh, cry without any provocation. ” And we don’t worry so much about what other people think… especially about what they think of us … because they probably do so lots less often than we think! ❤
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