Do we get influenced by the company we are in ? May be or may be not. We grow up in the family and imbibe the values of our family. Our parents and siblings become our role models in life. We learn the good and bad things from them. We also imbibe the habits of our family as we grow up. Then as get into adolescence, we do get influenced by our friends. Our friends influence us more than our family.
Our friends mean more to us than our family at this stage of our life. We study together, play together and sometimes even like to sleep together. In this process, we learn and adopt the good and the bad habits from each other. We work hard and attend tution classes together. We also end up smoking and drinking together. We want to live life on our own terms. We tend to defy our parents and do not like to be advised on anything in life.
As we grow up as adults, we take control of our life. We leave our parental homes in search of a dream career. We live independently and now it is our colleagues at work and friends in life, who make all the difference. We spend more time at work and with friends. We learn from them and share our learnings with them too. At this stage of life, we are influenced by our boss and colleagues at work. Further, our friends also evolve as our advisors.
Then many of us get married and our spouse becomes an integral part of our life. We listen to each other more than anyone else in our life. We share the good and bad news with each other. We balance each others lives. We lead our life as partners. There are times of conflict, where we may fight with each other and even dislike each other’s intereference. But, that is part and parcel of the institution of marriage.
Now, in all these stages of life, how does good company ( sangati ) make a difference at all. It is true that our character and deeds are determined by the company we keep in life. During our school and college days, we learn from our classmates and hence if we spend time with people who are smarter than us, we evolve smarter in life. Similarly in college, our habits are moulded by the company we keep. We excel in sports, arts or academics based on the influence of our friends.
On the other hand, it is also true that many of our bad habits are contributed to a great extent by the company we keep. We end up making smoking or drinking as a habit with the influence of our peers. Of course, we cannot blame our friends alone for any habit we develop in life. However, it is true that our company has a huge impact in our life at this stage.
So, we learn as we grow old that yes the company we keep determines our life behaviours and habits. Some of us realise earlier than others. But all of us learn along the way and try to change whenever necessary. It is up to us to decide whom we want to spend our life with.
In the photo above, the company of your colleagues makes you share happy moments of your life. It is this spirit of fellowship, which energises you to participate and win in life.
Even the famous Hindu scripture “Bhajagovindam” states, that “The company of the good weans one away from false attachments; from non-attachment comes freedom from delusion, when the delusion ends, the mind becomes unwavering and steady and from an unwavering and steady mind comes Jeevat Mukti (liberation even in this life).”
Our company in life is our choice.
S Ramesh Shankar