” I believe in you” seems a very simple statement but a very powerful one. I was recently in an internal global hr workshop when some of my colleagues gave me this idea. We were discussing of trust and then someone said that I should write on this subject – ” I believe in you”. I was touched by the power of the statement and hence readily agreed to reflect on it and write about it.
Let us start to examine as to why this simple statement is so powerful ? When was the first experience of this statement for most of us ? I would first start with our family. In most cases, our mothers more than our fathers would have expressed this to us as a kid in both verbal and non verbal behaviour. Most mothers believe that their kids can do the impossible. This belief in itself empowers the kid and creates a sense of self belief. They encourage their kids not only to study but play every possible sport and also try their luck in co curricular activities. Like in the photo above, a mother will always give a thumbs up to a child in all his actions and always believe he will succeed. The eyes of the mother speak and encourages her child.
If we move to the school, the best teachers repose their trust in their students and make them believe that they can excel in anything. As a student I recall a very interesting incident in my childhood days. I was interested in debating but had never done one. One day my English teacher made me participate in a school debate and made me believe that I could do it. I was very nervous since I had never debated before. But the confidence of the teacher in me made me go ahead and not only participate but win a prize in the very first competition I participated. The invisible pat of the teacher may motivate the student.
If we move to the workplace, many of us will recall that the best managers and leaders infuse confidence in us by their actions more than their words. They are always willing to take the risk and allow us to experiment and fail. They may or may not say to us that they believe in us always. This encourages us to take the plunge in areas, which we never would have even dreamt of. The words and actions of the manager should inspire the team member.
If we examine the behaviour of our mother, teacher or manager who believed in us, there are some attributes common in all of them. They give more than they take from others. They are unconditional in praise and stingy in criticism. They are always positive in their attitude and optimistic in their beliefs. They encourage us to experiment and are willing to support us if we fail. They will always come forward to take the blame on ourbehalf if something goes wrong.
If this is so simple, why do many of us fail to practise such a simple thing in life as parents, teachers, managers or leaders. I believe the simple things in life are the most difficult to practise. It is like telling the truth. I am yet to meet anyone in life who does not want to be truthful all the time. But most of us falter at some stage of life or their and learn from our mistakes. Some times we may say it verbally but still it does not have any impact. I believe this may be because there is no congruence between our words and our actions on the ground. Our actions do not reflect our beliefs and hence our words do not mean anything to anybody.
I think I learnt a simple lesson in life today. I promise that I will infuse this spirit of ” I believe in you ” in myself as a leader from today and will always try to display it in my verbal and non verbal behaviour with my family, friends and colleagues.
It is indeed a good insight !. What do you think ?
S Ramesh Shankar