All of us have met people in our life, who always live for others. We may call them “Selfless” people. I have also met many people in my life this way. One of them is my eldest sister. Born as the eldest member in my family, she was born as a premature child. My parents were not sure if she will survive and grow as a healthy child. But, since she was the first kid for our parents, they took extra care and nourished her to grow as a child.
Later, she grew up as a scholastic child and did very well in her academics. Even, as a child, she inherited my father’s patience and the seflessness of my mother. I have always admired her selfless nature. Even as the eldest among four siblings in our home, she would care for us more than herself. She would finish her home work even before we got up and helped all of us do our work.
I sometimes wonder what motivates these selfless people. Is it their ability to serve others, which is the real drive in their life ? They never think of themselves from morning to night. It looks as if they are born for serving others. They get up thinking what I can do for others. I have silently admired my sister all through her life. I regret that I have never really told her how much I admire this nature of hers.Today as I write this blog, I hope I am able to make up for my life’s regret. I am sure that it is difficult for any of us to be like them in our real lives. Even, if we pretend to be like them, we cannot ape them. But, we definitely can observe them and learn from them. We can try in our way to serve others in whatever little ways we can. It can even be like serving your own family or friends.
In my book, selflessness is like Godliness. One need not visit a temple, mosque, church or monastery to seek God’s blessings. It is these small deeds of service, which can take us closer to God. No religion in the world compels us to visit a religious place. All relgions encourage us to serve mankind. We need to find opportunities to serve others.
Many of us claim we do not find opportunities to serve others. We need not look for them. They knock at your doors every day or may be every hour in your life. It is our ability to sense them and make use of them. If we do not have the ability to sense them, we could learn from people around us. I am privileged to have a sister in my family. So, we may have them in our family or friends circle. It is our ability to spot them, admire them and learn from them.
Life is full of opportunities. Most of us look outside our spheres of life for the eternal truth. The truth lies within us. Similarly, life lessons can be learnt from your family members, friends and even colleagues at work. We seek Gurus in life to learn life lessons. It is time to realize that our near and dear ones can be our gurus. We need not look outside for them but even a glimpse within our sphere can help us spot them.
Let us refresh our lives today and start today with a small service to anyone in our life, without expecting anything in return. This act of kindness will give us joy, which money can never buy.
S Ramesh Shankar