Is patience necessary in life ? I am not sure but I am willing to examine it. I recall I was a short tempered guy when I grew up. This made me impatient in life. I was not happy at my own pace of doing things. As I ventured out of home and got into work, I realised that my impatience turned into anger. I lost my cool at silly things and wasted more of my energy than others. This made me less productive in life.
If I then move to the work place, I observe that all of us are in a hurry all the time. We are competitive and hence want to outdo our colleagues each and every time. We take up more than we can chew at work. We want to prove that we are smarter than others. We are impatient for results every day.
If we move to our families, the situation is not different. We want our children to grow up fast as we cannot deal with the tantrums of kids. As children, we want to grow up fast we want to stand on own feet. As newly married couples today we are so impatient that we are not ready to wait for nine months to have a kid and are willing to adopt or go for alternate methods.
What does all this teach us in life ? It tells us that we want the results without investing in the efforts. We want to win the game without playing the game. Imagine winning a football match without playing for ninety minutes. We want to be the CEO within days of our joining the organisation. If we feel, there is less chance, we want to start a start up so that we can become the CEO from day one.
All this implies that today the end is more important than the means to the end. While Gandhiji said that ” The means to the end is more important than the end itself”. If someone quotes Gandhiji to us, we may get impatient. We may even say that this guy is outdated. He needs to take a break or retire from work. I do not blame anyone for this since each of us are to blame ourselves.
If I look back, I realize that “patience pays”. I have no doubt that if you put in your best, you will get the best. The Japanese have always taught us that “fix the process, not the problem”. We need patience to perform. We need patience to be the best. We need patience to excel. We need patience to evolve as a good human being. Some may turn around and say that one may realize this after one goes through a life of impatience. It may be true for some and not for others. Life teaches us many lessons along the way as we go through many events. It is up to us to learn and become patient. Alternately, learn it late and be patient till you learn. The picture of the two birds patiently waiting to catch the fish in the lake explains why patience pays.
The choice is always ours.
S Ramesh Shankar