Our facial expressions speak more than our words. There is research to state that we express ourselves 70% of the time through non verbal behaviour rather than verbal. This means smiles can not only be contagious but can make a huge positive impact in our lives. Then, it may be worth while to examine as to why we are so stingy in smiling. Many of us find it difficult to smile unless a situation forces us to do so or we do it as an obligation to others. Interestingly there is also medical research to confirm that smiles can exercise our facial muscles better than frowns.
It is time to examine the reasons for our smiling or otherwise. We get up in the morning, brush our teeth and feel quite comfortable smiling at ourselves at the mirror. We have our cup of coffee with our family and friends and the smile may continue to blink. As the day progresses, we meet people on the way to work or school and the smile disappears. The frown may gradually replace the smile as we believe our day is worse than anyone else around us.
It is time to wake up in the morning and be grateful to God and ourselves. We should believe that we are the luckiest in the world and blessed with family and friends, who are so caring and loving around us. We should look forward to getting to work or school and meet our wonderful colleagues. This may not only make us more confident and cheerful but will spread happiness all around us. It may make us feel good and spread goodness with every smile on our face as we interact with others.
Why blame the world for a negative attitude if we can change the world with our smile. Another interesting dimension of a smile on our face is that it is very contagious. It is almost like yawning. Have your ever tried it ? If you look at people yawning around you, you end up yawning yourself even if you are not sleepy or feel like it. Smile is similar. Try it. If you meet someone who smiles around all the time, the spread of cheer is infectious.
It may be interesting to examine as to why we smile less and frown more at ourselves or at others. It may be because of the imbalance between need and greed in life. We are accumulating wealth with the belief that wealth may lead us to prosperity and which in turn may make us happy. This quest for wealth is endless and leads us from need to greed. The moment greed overtakes need, we tend become angry with ourselves and more greedy.
On the other hand, we meet people on the street, who are never sad. They may not be the wealthiest in the world but they are the happiest. If we examine them better, we may realise that they fulfill their needs in life and never are greedy. They give more than they get in life. Their smile is generous and unconditional. They do not smile at you because they need you but they smile at you because they want to make you happier every day.
On the other hand, many of us carry the burden of the world on us. We believe that the world is cruel to us. We believe that we do not have enough for a happy future. We are in the never ending quest for wealth. We yearn for a future, which is always eluding us and in the process forget the existence of the present. We forget the past as soon as we reach a stage of self denial. This makes us smile less and frown more.
It is time to wake up. Let us smile at ourselves and at others. Let us cheer ourselves . Let us spread happiness around us like a flower spreading honey to the bees. The world will be a happier place to live in.
Lets start today
S Ramesh Shankar